14 \u015eubatta D\u00fcnyay\u0131 k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 bir f\u0131rt\u0131na sarar. Kalp \u015feklinde \u00e7ikolatalar, \u00e7i\u00e7ek\u00e7ilerde s\u0131ra bekleyen adamlar. \u00c7i\u00e7ek\u00e7iler t\u00fcm senenin ac\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r, restoranlar \u2018\u00f6zel sevgililer g\u00fcn\u00fc men\u00fcs\u00fc\u2019 ad\u0131 alt\u0131nda pahal\u0131 yemekler sunar. Sevgililer G\u00fcn\u00fc romantizmin doruk noktas\u0131 gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de, hediyenin b\u00fcy\u00fckl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne g\u00f6re de\u011fer bi\u00e7ilen a\u015fklar, samimiyetsiz s\u0131r\u0131t\u0131r a\u015fk\u0131n masumiyetinde asl\u0131nda bazen en derin ili\u015fki problemlerinin \u00fczerini \u00f6rten bir perde haline gelir b\u00f6yle g\u00fcnler. Yaln\u0131zlar ise yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n so\u011fuk y\u00fcz\u00fc ile bir kez daha y\u00fczle\u015fmenin buruklu\u011funu ya\u015far.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ama biz bug\u00fcn farkl\u0131 bir \u015fey konu\u015fal\u0131m m\u0131? Sevgiyi, ger\u00e7ek sevgiyi\u2026 O pahal\u0131 hediyelerden, abart\u0131l\u0131 jestlerden, sosyal medyada \u2018biz \u00e7ok mutluyuz\u2019 naralar\u0131 atan \u00e7i\u011f romantizmden ar\u0131nm\u0131\u015f olan\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
SAH\u0130 SEVG\u0130 NEYD\u0130?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ger\u00e7ek sevgi, sevgililer g\u00fcn\u00fcnde payla\u015f\u0131lan s\u00fcsl\u00fc sofralar\u0131n, \u015fatafatl\u0131 hediyelerin, abart\u0131l\u0131 s\u00f6zc\u00fcklerin i\u00e7ine gizlenmi\u015f bir g\u00f6steri de\u011fil, o kayg\u0131larla bo\u011fu\u015furken yan\u0131nda destek olan s\u0131cac\u0131k eldir, hasta oldu\u011funda gece \u00fc\u00e7te kalk\u0131p sevdi\u011fine nane limon yapmakt\u0131r. Her \u015fart ve ko\u015fulda varl\u0131\u011f\u0131nla sevgini hissettirmektir. Yani diyece\u011fim o ki ger\u00e7ek sevgi; s\u00f6zc\u00fckleri g\u00fczel kullanma sanat\u0131 de\u011fil y\u00fcre\u011fi g\u00fczel kullanmay\u0131 yani \u2018eylemi\u2019 gerektirir. Ger\u00e7ek sevgi benlikten, bencillikten feragat edip \u2018biz olabilmek\u2019 ad\u0131na g\u00f6sterilen \u00e7abad\u0131r. A\u015fk\u0131n \u015fifresi \u00e7okta zor de\u011fil asl\u0131nda g\u00fcven verin, samimi olun yeter. G\u00fcven demi\u015fken\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir ili\u015fkiyi zehirlemenin en kestirme yolu, i\u00e7ine bir par\u00e7a g\u00fcvensizlik at\u0131p iyice kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmakt\u0131r. Gerisi mi gerisi kolay; Ba\u015fkas\u0131na mesaj att\u0131n m\u0131? Telefonumu neden ge\u00e7 a\u00e7t\u0131n? Yan\u0131nda ki kimdi? Gibi uzay\u0131p giden soru gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnen sorgulamalar ba\u015flar. \u00dcstelik de \u2018SEN\u0130 \u00c7OK SEVD\u0130\u011e\u0130M \u0130\u00c7\u0130N KISKANIYORUM\u2019\u2019 maskesiyle s\u00fcsleyerek can\u0131n\u0131 ac\u0131t\u0131r can\u0131m dedi\u011fin. \u0130\u015fte g\u00fcvensizlik b\u00f6yle ba\u015flar. Oysa k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k sevgiyi kan\u0131tlayan g\u00f6sterge de\u011fil \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ili\u015fkinin \u00e7\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fc\u015fl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6sterir, ya da defolu bir ruhun size olan hadsizli\u011finin habercisidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sevgiyi kutlay\u0131p, onurland\u0131rmak g\u00fczel ama onu t\u00fcketim k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcne yem edip g\u00f6steri\u015fli hale getirmek anlams\u0131z. Sevgililer G\u00fcn\u00fcnde \u00e7i\u00e7ek, hediye almak zorunluluktan de\u011fil, o ki\u015fi hayat\u0131nda \u00e7i\u00e7ek a\u00e7t\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in al. Pahal\u0131 restoranlara gitmeyi sosyal medyada hava atmak i\u00e7in de\u011fil onunla vakit ge\u00e7irmenin hazz\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015famak i\u00e7in yap.
Ha! Birde sevgini herkesin g\u00f6z\u00fcne sokup, \u00e7ar\u015faf \u00e7ar\u015faf sosyal medyada ilan etmene gerek yok \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc birde yaln\u0131zlar var b\u00f6yle g\u00fcnlerde, daha da \u0131ss\u0131zla\u015fan\u2026 Ve e\u011fer birini seviyorsan, bunu sadece on d\u00f6rt \u015eubatta de\u011fil, y\u0131l\u0131n her g\u00fcn\u00fc hissettir.
\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ger\u00e7ek sevgi samimiyeti sever ve en \u00e7ok s\u0131radan g\u00fcnlerde belli olur\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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